I am writing this for all the women who are struggling in the man's world to find a place under the sun, who fight for their right to live as freely as men do and making sure that men dun take them from granted. I am not a gud writer but i have tried to explain the incident in the best possible way.so ,here i narrate the incident that happened to me that i m gonna share wit u guys. i was cumin bk with my sister on her bajaj spirit at 11 in the nite after attending a stupid marriage function. i was riding the bike real slow coz it was cold. Near Hislop college , a guy on a bike came real close to me and he tried touching me.(For ppl who dun know Nagpur, the location was five minutes away from my house) unfortunately for him, i was wearing a jacket , so he got the feel of the collar of my jacket. it took sum fraction of seconds to realise wot happened and my sister, sona started shouting, " how dare u try touch my sister?" i was so furious wen i realised it that he was actually tryin to touch me, i followed him like crazy..he was on a splendour...and we were on our bajaj spirit , who s speed sucks big time. i was really tryin hard to chase him and locate him in the dark coz there was a distance of atleast 600-700 mts btw us. and finally bcoz of our gud luck, and that guys bad luck...his bike brokedwn and he had to stop near hislop college. H e approached us near hislop coll and was heading towards bhole petrol pump, then Burdi and Back to hislop coll. We finally caught him.(Again, for ppl not familiar wit Ngp, i followed him for approx 2 kms ) I was so furious that i felt that my body is exuding heat. i got down from my bike. Went near him, pulled his collar, and started slapping him right and left.... till the time i cud hear thrashing noises.it was like i had this energy inside me that was asking him to beat the hell outa him.... i dint know i had so much energy inside me. it was like every part of my body was wanting to hit him. i was violent.And i did beat the hell out him.I had a feeling that this slap is from all the women in the world who get beaten up, tortured and cant speak up their mind. My sister by then tried callin the cops. We called the cops thrice but nobody turned up for 20 minutes. And for Twenty minutes i was beating him, Kicking his ass, slapping him rt , left and centre. I couldnt control my anger. my hands were shivering bcoz i was hitting him real hard and my shoulder muscle got stiff. But nutin cud stop me.So , here we are, two girls , standing in the middle of the road, beating the hell out of a guy at 12 in the nite who had the guts to try to touch me. i told that guy i was feeling sad , coz if he wud have touched sum oder gal ,she wouldnt have reacted.... but his luck sucks so bad that he tried this cheap act on me.i was shouting ,"Nobody Touches me,nobody has the right."
OK this story has a PART II tooWe took his license from him before leavin the place at nite and told him we wud visit his place tom mornin.he was apologising and asking us not to cum to his place.little did he know that we were bitches of the first order.And as promised to him, we searched for his house and visited him. Called every member of his family out. told them about the cheap act their son had done.i was shocked to know that he was married wit a kid.His parents were pleading and askin us not to take the matter further.to end it all, i called his wife and slapped him right across his face in front of his family and we walked away with dignity.Nothing has ever given me a kick the way this whole incident did.To conclude, i would like to say please b brave and fight for ur dignity. this guy had taken me for granted , thinkin i wud not react and go bk home n cry . but no , i fought for my dignity, to show that ass we are not gonna take his crap. the govt . , cops are not gonna do anything, fight for urself, your self esteem.Dont give up....Please.
Thursday, February 28, 2008
for all the women...to find a place under the sun
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Hey Zena... Felt really good reading ur blog. Eve teasing has been a major issue of concern for years. Girls who cant speak for themselves do suffer a lot. M sure this article will help them raise their voices against such a thing. N all those loser men who think of women as things to be played with n not respect them must hide their faces somewhere coz a real man is the one who respects every person whether it is a man or a woman. He is no doubt a dignified n a respectable man, who respects others irrespective of their gender, caste n religion.
Hey Zena!
I am really proud of you.
I know that I haven't had the courage to do what you have done in similar circumstances. I get very very angry,I react, I shout... but I can never hit back. I know that is taken as a weakness by most.
I wish we all had your courage!
Hmm..Thats was really cool...
I am sure that You did a superb thing and it is really great to see you turn out this way....
Since, we are all suppossed to be equal, whatever you did, it was all all right...on the contrary, in our Backwards Society, it is a good lesson..
you did take a video of all this, did you not ??
any photos, by any chance ??? :)
Jokes apart, I must say that You are one great person.
God Bless you.
Regards
Sunny
hey thanks guys..
i just wanted to share the incident.believe me, wen i was chasin him, i had no clue wot i ll do once i catch him.
but wen i saw him...i got so violent that the only way to react was to hit him.and i did it.
and i swear to god i ll do it again if needed.
Hey Zena...(a pat on the back)
that was superb!!!
al girls shud be like you...we can all smash those men..
I hav experienced tht "heat" too tht is emmitted frm oneself when very furious.Hav also smacked a lotta men like this..and what satisfaction it gives!
i agree cops are not of any use...after all most of the cops are men..
But I'll tell you one thing, it might not be very safe to react very violently at all times. Coz many a times if it really hurts the "male ego", he might harass you all the more and at those times you could be helpless...
Im telling this coz I'm all the times planning to screw up men too for the smallest things they do to a woman...but there are constraints also which we have to accept and live with.
hence, be careful in these cases.
After all, it was a happy ending...& an experience you'll never forget. Also, you have taught a lot of other women too with the help of your experience...Hats Off!
hii zena...
this incident will imbibe confidence and boldness to those women who undergo the same situation but take no action.. ur bravey is really appreciable...
thank u so much for fighting for the right of a women
well done.... we deserve it!!!
i love you an inch more for this Zena!
v for sure will be able to change the world if v display an act of the kind...
Hats off to the bold and courageous ZENA !!
Love
Shejal
wao great. ur paves of reacting against an antisocial-deviated mind and strongness were really praiseworthy. it should be reached to all galz ears. really it's a striking matter in our society. ur top level of efforts of chasing is really should b learnt by all.
well u fought alone, if u had rung once at tht time of incident,u must have got a small support of ur frnz. frnz r fr wht? ok very good. b stronger enough..& let others to follow so..
Zee you remind me of that series called we are the brave women with ovaries ( i think a rather fitting reply to men with balls).
one bitter thing i have learnt is when you have to give it back to someone you better not publicise it too much. vendetta is not mere flexing of your muscles. it does not set us apart from stupid brawny men. keep up the spirit but not in a way that you can become target of idiots and mad men.
Hey zena
Keep up the BRAVE work & Inspire others to do the same
Great job
Neeraj
Hey Zena......way 2 go girl.
felt real gud readin what u did.
Everybody wishes that such thins never happen in their lives.....we never evr imagine that they wud 2......but i hope evry girl does what you did.....it takes a lot of courage.
But sometimes it also has dire consequences u nw......u nevr nw what guys can do aftr bein humiliated....so just be careful.
i hope you nevr hav to do that again thoh. tc
again hats off 2 u!
I just wish all girls could be like u.... Thanks for posting this here.. i hope at least some get inspired...
take a bow zena.. kudos
- Anonymous Advait
Hi Zena,
Seen your around coll and just happ to see your blog on someone's orkut page in a bored mode of surfing. Good for you girl! I wish I had more guts & courage like you. I would probably be the other girl and just walk away......I wish we were in a perfect world and men would learn how to respect women....atleast there is one man in this world who would think twice before misbehaving again....and I'm sure your experience would give us courage as well...
hey , thanks for responding. U dun have ur name put newhere.so i m not in a position to kno who u r.
I wish there cud b a perfect world , but there is no idealistic world which exists.so, i guess u have to fight for ur dignity all thru ur life.women have a tough life.i wrote this blog so that every girl who reads it gathers enuf courage to give bk to men when they face situation like this.
hey Zeena ...... great blog, great article ......... three cheers for women power "hip hip hurray"- "hip hip hurray" - "hip hip hurray" ....... RAJKUMAR (PGPRM)
Hey Zena, I am happy and sad both....Happy coz you gave it back to this guy...u taught him a lesson...
Sad becoz beating someone or punishing someone might only supress the demon in someone and not kill it....it wont take long for such demons to surface again...and that is the reason the world even today is not a safe place for women....
But still what you did is much much better than so many other women who suffer silently...
An ode to what you went through and the perfectly appropriate way in which you reacted.
Sorry for copy-pasting from my archives but I thought it fit the bill.
Women
By Prashant Butani (2005)
why describe a woman as soft and tender
why say the she is weak and defend her
the women i have known and continue to love
why call them frail angels sent from heaven above
the women i have known get angry and scream
they hit hard and can rip you at the seam
the can bear the brunt of falling skies
so why say then that the woman always cries
have the life of a loved one suddenly taken away
or an unimaginable adultery that emerges one day
not just survive past this everyday pyre
but kindle the ambition, burns even that fire
why do men feel their work is of more worth
how macho is a man who cant even watch childbirth
the promoters of the proverbial bread winner myth
who cannot even cook gravy to eat the dry bread with
open your eyes to the hands that soothe your soul
try not to believe that you play a greater role
my grand mothers and the way the worked to take care
that never the pinch of everyday chores we ever had to bear
my mother and the fact that i am a part of her still
lessons taught, wars fought and worry she always will
my sister and the wise cracks we bouce off another
never will she know im proud to be her brother
my friends and their comfort and peace they bring
never fail to make me laugh, or make my heart sing
my love the woman that i want to pamper today
she is my reason to be, and nothing more to say
these women, whom one might think as women just
have roots in compassion and their strength comes from trust
they have made me who i am and who i one day will be
i live for them for they live for me
hey thanks for posting that.it really fits the bills.well written dude.
i wud have accepted that a year or so ago, but ive come 2 hate anything ive written excepting a few lines here and there..
whats keeping u busy on a thursday afternoon? dreams of the weekend or backlog from monday?
i guess its backlog of the previous monday!!!
aisa kya ho gaya that u dn like wot u wrote.
i hope u realise that not many are blessed wit the power of writin nad u r one of them.
attaining single-hood (i say that like its nirvana to make it seem blissful) created this mush-reject filter inside of me (sorry abt the "filter" joke thats just the satellite engineer inside that likes to raise his ugly head from time to time)
most of wat i wrote was mush.. have zero tolerance 4 that now..
i worked 16 hours non-stop yest, hence taking the day off 2day & enjoying the fruits of my labour.. err.. wtf.. im jus lazy 2day :P
wats ur excuse?
watched loads of movies instead of workin.simple excuse
any worth spending another day being 'lazy' over? i have a feeling theres another one of those coming up for me in about two weeks
hi,,
grt buddy u've really dn
shocking job,it is actually
difficult to do for anyother girl,
but after knowing your experience,....hats off to u..
hey woman!!!! M really proud of u. As I was reading I could feel ur passion n my adrenaline was rushing as well :) Know what not many women in this country can do what u have done. The reason why many women cant stand up for their own dignity is that they are taught to be docile since their childhood. She is made to believe that she is the weaker sex and she needs a man to protect her. The problem arises when these men take her submission for grated. They forget that if a women is submissive its just because she chooses to be one, her innocence, sweetness and dignity is not to be taken for granted because the day she decides to take out her anger and revenge only god can save these men. I think u have really showed that passion which every Indian gals needs today.Forget about interiors of the country women in Bangalore(the silicon valley of India) are also not safe today. After hearing what happened in blore pubs I have lost all hopes from this county’s administrative powers. Its only we gals who can help ourselves now. This country has lost all its values and respect for its women as anybody anytime can beat up the women, even in the presence of hundred other men.And what do these onlookers do?? they just stand and watch the show. Its time for us to stand up for ourselves, no one will come for our help.I am sure what u have done is an inspiration for a lot of women reading this blog.
Awesome ...
Just awesome ..
I will sure as hell spread this one around ..
People need to hear more such stories. :)
Keep rockin'
Keep kicking their Asses.
--Anish
in a world like ours.....pepper spray is highly practical.......
Amen!!!
Btw who is this anonymous person???
hey wati here... i come across similar losers like this guy at least once a week. maybe touching incident has not yet happened but i cannot explain the feeling when this guy looks at you and make those filthy comments. it makes me question mankind. really
Great going gurl !!! we need every girl/woman in India to stand up for their right and their dignity.... fear should be on the ones who sin !
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